"you are worth it!!"

"...But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope."

Love is all you need. you just have to open your eyes and once you see it, grab onto it, hold it tight and dont ever let it go. its all around us, love. its what makes this crazy world worth living in, it comes in all different shapes, sizes, colors, sex, race, religion......embrace it. support it. treasure it.but more importantly say it when you mean it!

tell the ones you love just how much you love them. I think that is what I miss most about those I've lost. As much as we need to tell others that we love them and they mean the world to us on a day to day basis, we desire those same words spoken back to us, that we are loved, that we are desired, that we are appreciated.

ya, my counselor might say that I need approval from others to be happy, but I don't think this is the same thing. We all need, as loving nurturing humans, to love and be loved, to tell people we love them, and to hear that people love and appreciate us. Too much, and for too long I have been taken advantage of in numerous relationships, all that differ yet hold some things the same within them...misled, hurt, believed that we had the most perfect relationship, it was just me and them. well, that's not how it was. thats not really how it ever is? but if we keep on thinking that nothing great will ever happen to us, then thats all we make room for.

leaving him was probably one of the hardest things I had to do. but key words being had to do. No one can read the future, see what will happen next, or answer the what ifs...settling. thats what I always did. thinking I could never do better, this is all I deserved or was going to get, so go with it because who wants to be left alone. Things day to day don't change much, and we get caught up in the hussle and shuffle of our crazy busy lifes, taking care of the house, the groceries, the teenager who wasn't mine, but who was taking care of me?? If I have realized nothing else since leaving him and making a huge decision for MYSELF, I realized that no one can take care of you the way you can take care of yourself, and no one will take care of you, they way you need to be taken care of. (with few exceptions...home made soup from mom or dad, backrubs and kissing your forehead when you're sick from mom or dad...) call it what you want, self-discovery, self-esteem, self-confidence...they all share the word self. YOU! You are important, I am important! I always believed all of these things, quotes, worthy great sayings; however, it was not until I made the decision that changed my life. I have never felt more alive, more heatlhy (work in progress...)and more like Lianne, than I did when I was in college. The Lianne everyone knew and loved and wanted to be with...with more wisdom and knowledge and life lessons learned and more importantly with more self worth and self confidence!

I've learned and will continue to learn and grow from you, just how to be in a relationship with someone else and still have a relationship with myself. I am a better person because of it, and for this I will be a better person for you. Happiness comes from within just as much as it comes from sharing things you love, places you go and hobbies you do with the people you love and care for.

"...but for the first time let's just allow ourselves to be whatever it is we are and that will be better..OK?"

"To be happy, it first takes being comfortable being in your own shoes. The rest can work up from there. the hardest situation to stay happy in is when you're trying to find love and yourself at the same time...happiness is being able to wake up and just know that this is what you wanted, and not what somebody else wanted"